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We are nearing 6 months. Six months since our lives were uprooted from ‘normal’ and pushed into the unknown. It’s still hard to fathom, it’s still hard to wrap my head around what this will mean for the months/years to come. I am hopeful, yet a part of me is also feeling guilty – 6 months is nothing compared to the devastation of war, cancer, the Great Depression.
For the vast majority of us, this enormous change came out of nowhere. We were blindsided and continue to be with each passing week. While we can certainly still live with mitigation in place, I think we all need to grieve in order to persevere.
According to David Kessler, we are experiencing many forms of grief due to the pandemic, especially anticipatory grief – uncertainty about the future. The best we can do right now is go through the grieving stages: denial, anger, bargaining, sadness, and acceptance.
Acceptance is likely going to be the hardest step. Loss of jobs, connections, school, activities, etc, is difficult to accept. As a staunch type A, the loss of control is certainly the hardest for me.
That being said…
Acceptance can be THE control. Allowing ourselves the time to go through the grieving process and then coming to a state of affirmation is not defeat or surrendering. It is taking back control.
While we can absolutely miss the past and wish for life as we knew it, I think in order to push forward, we need to consider this our new beginning. Our baseline.
Let’s grow from here.
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