Admittedly, I get excited to open the slot every afternoon. What could it be? A new magazine? A card from a friend? Maybe a flyer for a community event? I don’t know what it is about that grey box…it just sparks unavoidable curiosity deep inside.
Alas, my excitement turns to disappointment when I see yet another bill or coupon for something I certainly don’t need. Obligations. Junk. Ick. I begrudgingly shove the letters in my purse. And what do I do next with the stack of white envelopes? Empty my purse and pile them up on my desk…for weeks.
I have gotten myself into such a rut over mail that it actually pains me to open it. I’d rather move the ever-growing pile from my desk to the adjacent futon every time I have to open my laptop screen (the mail has its messy home on top of the laptop) than wade through it. Overdue bills, missed sign-ups, unopened birthday cards. Guilty as charged.
We forget sometimes how dependent we’ve become on email. It’s so easy to leaf through emails on my phone in the morning while I’m just starting to fully wake up. Swipe left to erase. Flag for later. Oh, that bill needs paid by tomorrow? Open the App and one-click. Done.
But the snail mail still comes. Everyday it pollutes my mailbox, and everyday I go through the eagerness/letdown rollercoaster. I don’t necessarily want to burst into song like Steve from Blue’s Clues. But I do need ways to keep the curiosity flowing, at least enough to actually open the envelope despite the sender’s name. CapitalOne, I’m looking at you.
What routine do you keep to sort and answer your mail? Drop me a line!
Trust & Success: If you are accountable to someone, you are more likely to implement what you know into what you do. Ken Blanchard, author of “Know Can Do” and creator of Blanchard LeaderChat, suggests 15-30 minute one-on-one conversations every 2 weeks can not only build trust, but also support focus and success.
Tracking: An accountability partner can keep you on track with checklists, worksheets, or other easy ways of effective and focused goal management.
Social commitment: Being socially committed to an accountability partner increases your odds of successfully completing a task from 65% to 95%.
Constructive criticism: A third-party accountability buddy can provide constructive criticism and help modify the way you look at your goals.
Self-worth: Healthy conversations about your goals can not only help re-frame them into achievable tasks but can also boost your self-worth, in turn motivating you to crush your goals!
Outer expectations: As described by author Gretchen Rubin, obligers, people who meet outer expectations but resist inner expectations, may need an accountability partner. If they set a goal for themselves, they’ll likely avoid it – however, if they feel a duty to another person to meet that goal, they’ll achieve it!
Avoid disappointment: We are easily influenced by social pressures. If we tell someone we’re going to do something, we will try our best not to disappoint them.
SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Bound. Writing down and sharing SMART goals with a friend can significantly boost your success.
Clear reasons: An accountability partner can help you determine a clear “why“? Taking a step back and having a conversation about the reasons you’re setting these goals can be enough motivation to proceed or re-frame.
Power in numbers: You’re not alone. Having a third-party accountability buddy can establish a sense of family. Support of an encouraging person is pivotal, especially when the going gets tough.