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With every relationship, whether it is casual or deep, personal or professional, there is an element of understanding. Perhaps we hold that person with utmost respect until – BAM – they do something that irritates us to our core. It may be easy to move on with our life…but more than likely, we won’t forget. We try to push the feelings down, try to ignore them, but lo and behold, they crop back up when we least expect it.
Case in point, a friend who I valued deeply for many years was not supportive during my time of need. I felt alone, sad, hurt. And even many years later, I still hold a grudge. However, this same person recently fell into her own challenging times. As much as I wanted to ignore her texts, I couldn’t stop thinking of her situation. I had to put myself in her shoes and be the bigger person.
I encouraged her. I lent an ear. I provided some solicited advice. I did for her what she failed to do for me. While I certainly won’t get a pat on the back or a thank you, and the past will still creep up at inopportune moments to make me feel small, I’ll at least be able to sleep at night knowing I silenced my ego.
The same goes for family. Have an estranged relationship with someone you used to care deeply for? Is it bothering you to the point of insomnia? You haven’t spoken to this person in days, weeks, months, or years? I encourage you to reach out. What’s the worst that could happen? They don’t respond? At least you were the bigger person who broke the silence. And if there NEEDS to be a barrier, then I’m sure you’ll create healthy boundaries that serve the relationship or better yet, acquaintance.
You are strong and you deserve peace. Make it right…for you.